By Abby Bly
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You love saving outfit ideas on Pinterest and Instagram, imagining yourself walking into social events in your new cute fits, and living out your style dream. But, when it comes time to shop, you exit your shopping cart at the last second or leave the store empty handed once you realize it’s time to pull out your wallet. When your first summer party rolls around, you’re still picking over pieces from last year, or even the one before that.. If this sounds familiar to you, lets talk budgeting, breaking bad habits, and improving your money mindset. It’s time to start owning your style!
Breaking Bad Habits
We all have our good and bad habits when it comes to money, and it’s not always spending too much that’s the problem. If you’re like me, you may have a habit of spending too much money in the wrong places, and too little in the right places.
I know this may sound silly to some, but having my nails done makes me feel more like myself. As much as I always loved having acrylics, I would always complain about how they were so expensive to keep up and never got them done. I wouldn’t hesitate to spend lots of money out to eat or on coffee every day, but insisted that I just could not afford to keep up my nails.
Similarly to my nails, keeping up my wardrobe and investing in wearable pieces has always been difficult for me. I would rarely allow myself to splurge on clothing and if I did, it was always on one or two pieces that I only wore a couple of times.
The trick to getting over this mindset? Your mindset (and your budget) has to make some room for your style. It’s time to stop feeling guilty about buying clothes, getting your nails done, etc. and start welcoming the abundance that will allow you to have more of what you want. And yes- I know that there are many who struggle to put dinner on the table, let alone worry about appearance. But, in my particular circumstance, it seemed silly for me to complain that I couldn’t afford to be smarter with my money- and I’m sure some of you can relate!
Sis, if you haven’t worn it in the last 6 months, you’re not gonna wear it! I can’t even tell you how many years have gone by with the same old stuff sitting in my closet and me thinking, “but, what if I need it?!” even if I’ve worn it maybe once since I got it. Spring is upon us, and now’s the time to clean out your closet to make room for your new pieces! I did this recently and it feels so good to make space for the new and get rid of the old. It’s like shedding a negative energy. Please do this!
When I was ready to start investing in my nails, I sat down and budgeted how much of each paycheck I would need to keep them up. As I started making outfits and spending more $$ on clothes, I decided which pieces I could afford with this paycheck, and save other items for the next one. The key here, too, is to make outfits. This may seem like a no-brainer, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve bought pieces that were cute or trendy but failed to realize that these weren’t staple pieces.
Stop Feeling Guilty
Lastly, if you grew up in a household like mine, you’re probably an expert on being frugal. Unless it’s absolutely necessary, it’s “ridiculous” to spend money on it, and you can probably just find something similar at the thrift store, right? Even though I still love hitting up Goodwill from time to time, it’s been hard for me to allow myself to own my style because it’s always been viewed as a luxury. As long as you’re capable of budgeting and being intentional about your shopping, it is okay to let your inner style guru out. Ignore the judgement that comes with owning your style and spending your money. If it makes you happy, do it!!
Hopefully this will leave you with some style inspo for the week 💖 talk to you soon!